Conversations Begin with You

What if you could make every conversation an experience?

These days, the art of conversation is more like a microwave meal - it's easy, quick and may have some taste to it. Don't you wish there was a way to simmer our dialogues instead of nuking our chit-chats? 

Listen, I’m not advising you to have constant gut-wrenching, soul-shaking, problem-solving exchanges with every phone call, email or text. Kind words and positive intent is the secret sauce behind long-lasting connections, building trust and honoring personal boundaries. 

Create meaningful encounters, big or small, by consistently practicing these 3 useful habits:

Focus

Focus is the bridge that joins you to another in a short period of time. As you walk across the bridge, look on the other side and picture the face of someone with whom you want contact. Let’s say you had two minutes of this person's time. How would you make the most out of this valuable moment? It is likely you will offer your total attention, come up with key talking points and commit yourself to an effective outcome.  

Affirmation:  “I focus my mind and heart to create happy conversations."  

Presence

The gift of being fully present with others is truly a gift. In a world of endless distractions, presence feels like a super power possessed by only a few people. Not true! We all have this incredible capability. And believe me, you will reap endless rewards by infusing this small but mighty tool into your relationships.

With audiences, I often make this statement:  

“When someone stands in front of you, ready to listen without distraction and with love, you send out a profound message. Within seconds, the person begins to soften - even melt - right before your eyes. Yes, to behold another from a place of presence is an act of healing.”

Affirmation:  “I am present every time I engage with another in conversation."

Understanding

Last, but not least, is the ability to meet others from a place of understanding. When you combine focus and presence, you are also saying to someone:  “I am here. I see you. You are safe. You are loved.” Be generous with your understanding. Be open to listening from a place of non-judgment. Tune into the clues and cues you sense from the other. There is so much more to what the person is saying and not saying to you. Don’t you think there’s something to be said about reading between the lines?? Understanding is literally the heart you share beyond the speech.

Affirmation:  “I choose to be understanding in my conversations.”


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