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Finding Grace In Hard Times

Finding Grace In Hard Times

Years ago, a mentor advised me that my primary task was to pay attention to the good things happening all around me if I wanted to last.

Otherwise, she cautioned, it’s easy to fall into the trap of becoming “emotional shredded cardboard.” At the time, I was so young, that I was not even sure what she was trying to tell me.

She recommended a middle way, in which we resist choking off our natural empathy, and instead cultivate a rich inner life that is able to attend to, work with, and release the emotions that accompany our work.

I AM Peace.

I AM Peace.

As we wander through life's thicketed forest, we encounter over and over our mental, emotional and spiritual selves. Standing alone in the wild exposes us to shadowy perceptions capable of disorienting us. Our energy can becomes disturbed. We may attach ourselves to the disturbance. The phenomenon called "anxiety" is one such attachment. Anxiety erodes our strength and inner vitality.

The Joy of Connection

The Joy of Connection

Thanks to Apple, the “Me” movement is bigger than ever ... and growing. Gadgets, apps and social media drive greater focus on the almighty Me, Myself and I. Corporations with their social media extensions feed our hungry ego's wants to acquire and proclaim itself. We need to find the roadmap to joyful connection and remember how we can change the world together with love.

Avoiding Holiday Meltdowns

Avoiding Holiday Meltdowns

Holidays can bring out the best - or worst in us. Amid commercials depicting cheery families dressed in matching pajamas, there is often a quiet melancholy that drifts into our psyches. We mix fantasy, memories, guilt and mild skepticism into a seasonal beverage that we consume in large quantities. Take extra loving measures such as moving the body, relaxing the mind and planting light into the heart.

Talking to the Spirit World

Say hello! :)

The Spirit World wants to help us grow, heal and recover from setbacks.

The Spirit World wants to help us grow, heal and recover from setbacks.

The Spirit World has a strong desire to connect with us living in the Physical World. Just because they don't jump in the car or meet us at the Cheesecake Factory for lunch, they still sincerely (and literally in Spirit World) continue to see us every day.

The Spirit World is comprised of Beings who have left their physical bodies due to stress, disease or old age. Their earth bodies completed the work on Earth, and it was time to re-enter another form. They can show up in more than one place at a time since they’re not limited by a body. These light-filled beings travel in and out of form. When needed, they are able to assume the forms of an animal, a body of water, a land mass or a human.

Without a physical body, Spirits are free of the restrictions around time and space. They don’t need to run through the airport to catch a plane or speed on the highway to make it to the next appointment. They rely on flow and Universal Rhythms to call upon a specific energy to assist humans. They nudge us to slow down and to detach from the stresses that cause fear, drama and illness.

Sprits join with other Spirits to help humanity. Global shifts from the mundane to the miraculous occur in co-creativity with the Spirit World. Thanks to this special partnership we are able to:

  1. believe in the power of love, peace and joy.

  2. see past egos and into unity consciousness.

  3. circulate healing energy to repair minor wounds in the Self and release major brokenness in communities.

What do you require from the Sprit World?

  • Guidance/Reassurance

    Navigating the rocky road of life can lead us down paths of loneliness, betrayal, pain and desperation. We encounter periods of suffering when thoughts and feelings overwhelm, stress and rock us to the core. When the way forward isn’t clear, the heart pursues answers beyond the practical and rational. It heads off the beaten path (pun intended) in search of light. We call out to anyone who can hear our urgent petitions. In the midst of our pleas, voices arise out of seemingly thin air. Although we may or may not decipher the source of these sounds-we feel better, assured and hopeful.

    We are somehow more welcoming and less intimidated by an extraordinary presence in tough times. Be certain the Spirit World loves to help us in any way they can to boost our morale, nudge us in the right direction and offer insights for gaining wisdom. Through them we transcend the egotistical, practical and typical ways of moving out of the muck that keeps us stuck.

  • Healing/Divine Timing

    The diagnosis of a life-threatening illness, the death of a loved one, hurricanes and other tragedies spin us into crisis mode. Although we lean in on our tribe or community to assist us, recovery seems monumental and endless. Normally, people spend time with us during the height of crisis and then walk away when things have subsided. For those of us in the hot seat of crisis, the transition back to ordinary life contains many unanswered details.

    When unexplainable moments happen, we are disturbed and detoured from what we understand as normal. The fear of the unknown can relentlessly fill our minds with erratic ideas. The turning point seems nowhere in sight. The looming and overwhelming questions appear in our heads:

    Who’s time clock am I on?

    Will the veil of suffering lift?

    Can I survive this crisis?

    The Spirit World holds Divine space for us. It is capable of seeing beyond crisis. In this spiritual container, we are embraced by Enlightened Beings who care for us every minute of every day of our human existence. They are committed to transforming our entire being to stand up and find strength in whatever unstable and unshakable experiences that come our way.

  • Messages/Opening to Wisdom

    When we open ourselves to Spirit, we serve as channels of love and light between the Spirit and Physical Worlds. By joining their efforts to raise awareness, create flow and step outside of ego, Spirits boost our internal tanks with lasting messages and wisdom.

    The Spirit World constantly delivers messages of Peace, Love and Joy straight to your imagination’s inbox. They are capable of teaching us how to practice sacred truths within this chaotic and time-based reality. When we allow our intuition to join with Spirit's essence, we realize we have unlimited access to holiness, deep compassion and spiritual intelligence. With a willing mind and an open heart we can step more fully into the Divine version of ourselves and use human experiences to help other beings in positive ways.

What Energies Block Clear Communication with Spirit World?

When we are in states of grief, hopelessness, bitterness, hatred and hostility, the ability to sense the Spirit World seems non-existent. Because we invest time in existing in adverse circumstances, we are blinded to possibilities and hope. Eventually we experience a Divine wake up call (or two) from the Spirit World that pokes us out our “ego coma.” At that point, the Spirit World (a place without deadlines or pressures to succeed) begins the process of unblocking us. For some the trail may feel like a series of miracles and others a set of coincidences destined to create these internal shifts.

What Experiences Does the Spirit World Shield for the Human World?

  • Experiences which significantly alters one’s life path, i.e. winning lottery ticket numbers
    We are encoded with learning specific lessons in life. If the request alters or derails someone from their earth school studies, the Spirit World does not intervene. When I do an intuitive reading for someone I am able to find out what his/her life theme is and the events contributing to their lessons.

  • Experiences in which you don’t believe the dream will happen
    If we are not 100% devoted to your dream or vision, a part of us is afraid of the outcome. Unclear requests generate confusing and misaligned energy. Ask the Spirit World for a way to gain clarity so you can be heard and answered. For example a client wanted to decide which job opportunity would be the perfect fit. The guided message I shared with her: “What is your intention for your work? How does it line up with the mission of the organization? How will it contribute to your spiritual expansion?” The point of this example is the client had to pause and reflect before a clear response would be presented to her.

  • Experiences in which you seek revenge/harm/pain on another being
    We cannot look to the Spirit World to avenge another. They are 100% pure love and light and do not have the means of assisting our damaged egos to participate in such destructive acts.

Encounters with negative energies - what to do?

We may feel unexplainable sadness or frustration when we are stuck. We may be attached to unhealthy substances or feel strong, uncontrollable urges to watch pornography, gamble or shop. We may feel so empty and lost in the deep and darkest ocean and have decided life is not worth living. Beyond the clinical assessment of depression, suicidal thoughts, addiction and pain, it is possible that lower energies are around us. Empaths and intuitives are easily susceptible to negative energies. They need to pay close attention when they fall into a mysterious slump and their fears take over. Choose one or more of the following ideas to bring light into yourself or your space:

  1. Set an intention and light a candle. Say these words: “Dear Spirit World, I call upon your love and light to release any negative energies present in my life right now. I ask for your infinite wisdom to provide me with any tools or guidance to eliminate any energy that is expired and not serving my highest good or the highest good of all. I am sincerely grateful for your intervention and for your powerful efforts. Blessings.”

  2. Open imagination. Perhaps none of these suggestions feel right to you. Spend a few quiet moments and pay attention to what is being said to you. Record the message and follow instructions.

  3. Clear energy with sound. Clapping and chanting raise the vibration of a space.

  4. Smudge. Using incense or holy water opens the channel of communication between you and the Spirit World.

  5. Go outside. Hugging a tree, breathing fresh air, walking along the water shakes off negativity.

  6. Open windows to let out stale and inert energies.

  7. Contact Rita! If you’re still unsure about what to do or you just don’t want to deal with negativity, I offer remote Spiritual Clearings for individuals, pets, places and businesses.

Honesty Today

Honesty is such a lonely word
Everyone is so untrue
Honesty is hardly ever heard
And mostly what I need from you
— Honesty, Billy Joel · 1978

Can honesty stand alone?

Practicing honesty has been passed down through generations as a sacred teaching. Our elders, our religions and our leaders have gifted us edicts and encouragement to live in honest ways. They illustrated to us that honesty promotes our evolution as a human family - among the sacred keys to living and co-existing on this planet. Honesty is powerful and demonstrates respect, trust, maturity and strength.

If we recall the last time we were truly honest with ourselves, we may have noticed up-ticks in our health and well-being. Notre Dame Researchers explored the impact of lying on health over the course of 10 weeks. When participants told fewer lies, big or small, physical complaints including headaches and other mental health conditions like depressed moods decreased.

Conversely, honesty has a twin sibling called dishonesty - the way of the shadow. Lying has devastating effects which dis-empower the Self and others. It causes major breakdowns in systems and relationships. The impact of dishonesty shatters people, communities and our world family. None of us escapes from dishonesty’s path of chaos, shame and destruction.

We can agree every human has been touched by honesty and dishonesty throughout their lives. Countless stories in history have taught us we are capable of being fraudulent, of disguising ourselves and of twisting our language to benefit the ego. Although we value honesty more than dishonesty on paper, honesty appears to be a lonely practice, especially in our modern world. It appears we often choose dishonesty. We tell ourselves it makes people feel better. Dishonesty is often used to reward us for what we don’t want to hear or deal with:

  • The truth.

  • Whatever is life-altering, difficult or painful.

  • The experience of reality.

  • Struggle.

BIG questions

  1. Is honesty lonely because we don’t believe in it anymore or because we have lost our way?

  2. Can we map-out fewer paths to dishonesty and more to honesty?

“There is only one Absolute Truth, and all other truths emanate from it. When you find truth, your actions will be in alignment with it. Human action reflects truth or reflects illusion. Can Truth be put into words? Yes, but the words are, of course, not it. (Mere symbols.) They only point to it.”  -Eckhart Tolle,  A New Earth

“There is only one Absolute Truth, and all other truths emanate from it. When you find truth, your actions will be in alignment with it. Human action reflects truth or reflects illusion. Can Truth be put into words? Yes, but the words are, of course, not it. (Mere symbols.) They only point to it.”

-Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth

This amazing quote illuminates the chasm which remains between truth and honesty. To live honestly means aligning with Truth. To live honestly allows us to be free while simultaneously opening our hearts.

Does honesty mean being truthful? If we believe the three truths (Peace, Love, Joy) are eternal, then living our honesty becomes a path toward which we dedicate our lives. This path leads to our highest, Divine Selves and ultimately towards Enlightenment.

Standing up for honesty is hard work.

How to commit to honesty? First take note of what it means to be honest and remain honest. Being honest starts with the inner self choosing Truth to create freedom, peace, love and joy. It orients the whole person to show up with no agenda and no privileged information. “I am honest.” Staying honest is knowing the planet is dependent on us following this Truth. The planet survives by our honest contributions, actions and willingness to serve the world. Just as the Notre Dame researchers discovered the benefits of honesty in individuals, we can barely contemplate the tremendous worldwide impact of how honest intentions can rewrite old stories and mend compromised hearts everywhere.

New York Times writer Judi Ketteler published an article highlighting her attempts at honesty. Her plan? A journey “…to jot down instances throughout the day where I had to make a choice concerning honesty and notice how it felt.” The journey to be 100% honest with her kids, husband, at work and in social media was dissected under her new microscope. The discoveries bolstered Ketteler’s ability to summon courage in the moment, and allowed her inner compass to guide her. Being honest gave her the resolve to stay honest. Ketteler began to notice how this growing influence positively changed her and her world.

Second need to admit that a lie is a lie. Ketteler highlights the work of behavioral economist and author of The (Honest) Truth About Dishonesty, Dan Ariely. His experiments show that individuals cheat “up to the level where they start to feel badly about their own internal sense of integrity.” Contributors to dishonesty include rationalizing our own dishonesty, observing dishonesty in others, and feeling highly distressed.

Ariely offers three pointers on how to increase honesty:

  1. Pledge our name to confirm honesty.
    Use moral reminders before making a choice.

  2. Supervise and hold others accountable.

Honesty builds us up and never lets us down.

If we think about Ariely’s experiments and our low threshold to practice consistent honesty, we need to surround ourselves with honesty's benefits. Quotes, images and phone reminders help keep us on track. For honesty to stick to our bones. we need time for reflection alone or with those committed to the same cause. Honesty builds a framework for eight core anchors to human survival (and thriving):

  • Respect

  • Safety

  • Honoring self and others

  • Tolerance

  • Mutual benefit

  • Character

  • Light-heartedness

  • Connection

We won’t be lost in a dark tunnel once we begin the journey towards honesty. According to the article, Honesty- How it Benefits You and Others, the author sings the praises of a life of honesty. He says signs of honesty reinforce our devotion and lead us to further truth.

What does honesty look like?

The benefits of honesty are endless. What would you add to this list?

  • May make us feel uncomfortable initially, but honesty has a lasting positive effect.

  • Uplifts the heart and spirit.

  • Demonstrates love and compassion for all.

  • Teaches clarity.

  • Promotes generosity and kindness.

  • Brings out gratitude.

  • Generates no regrets.

  • Demonstrates success and responsibility.

  • Feels authentic and genuine.

  • Inspires co-creativity.

  • Moves us from the inside out.

  • Brings dignity to the table.

  • Sets up healthy boundaries.

Reminder!

Don’t kick honesty to the curb to suffer one more day in a dark corner! Shine the light on Living with truth and offering your gifts of peace, love and joy to all beings.